Say It Now! Gratitude is for Sharing, Not Saving

“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”  William James, MD, considered to be the “Father of American Psychology”

His smile of surprised glee radiated as we put a “Birthday Prince” hat (with the two “s’s” crossed out) and golden cape on our friend and colleague and seated him at the head of the table.  The occasion was a “significant decade” birthday, and six of us had gathered to celebrate this time with him.

Our celebration, however, was going to be different than the typical birthday party.  Though there were silly hats and some singing (accompanied by a ukelele), we all had come ready to honor him very intentionally.  In preparation for the celebration, we each took time to reflect on what he had meant to us using the following guidance: 

·       Remembering the first time we met him or a formative time early in our getting to know him

·       A quality we admired in him

·       Something about him that we found endearing or cracked us up

·       A story about how he had positively impacted our life or something that he has taught us

·       Our hopes for him for the next 5 years accompanied by a representative small gift of some sort (funny was preferred over serious, though meaningful symbols were encouraged as well)

And now, between appetizers and drinks, we were going around the table, one question at a time, and sharing our sentiments.  There was much laughter, meaningful heart-felt  stories, and a deep sense of admiration and love.  It was an incredible time and a forever memory for all who were there.

Our gathering was inspired by the "Say It Now" movement, which was launched in 2022 by founder Walter Green after he noted how often we wait to honor and share our deepest admiration and gratitude for others until the “end,” whether that “end” be in retirement, on their death beds, or most tragically, at their funerals.  His intention was to change how and when we express gratitude for the people who’ve meant so much in our lives – from too late to right now, by providing encouragement and simple tools to help facilitate our expressions of gratitude.  Whether expressed in writing, verbally, or as a group event, he believes that letting someone know how much you appreciate them can become a transformative experience – for their life and yours!  

I believe that as well, and experienced it once again during our recent celebration.   Which leaves me wondering, what important people in each of our lives don’t know how much they are appreciated – what they mean to us and how they’ve positively impacted our lives?  As Walter Green has said, “There is no benefit in waiting – this is the moment!”  Give them, and you, a wonderful gift.  Say it now …