Tolerations Part 2: Breaking Free from Them Before They Break You
"Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." – Jim Rohn
Tolerations, the subtle annoyances we live with every day, are more than just minor inconveniences. These seemingly small stressors slowly chip away at our mental energy and focus. While acknowledging them is a start, the next step is learning how to systematically identify and resolve them. This follow-up to a recent blog will explore strategies for recognizing these energy drains and offer a practical solution for addressing them.
As previously shared, resolving a decade long toleration has led to an overwhelming sense of relief. But as I relished the clarity that came with addressing this, other things I’ve been tolerating have come into finer focus – the computer keys that regularly stick, the unread “I’ll get to later” e-mail, the passport that has needed to be renewed since January, and numerous others. This led to the realization that what I need is a system – a practical and sustainable approach to dealing with these recurring energy drains.
Indeed, as minor as they might seem, tolerations have a measurable impact on our mental well-being. In fact, research shows unfulfilled goals, unresolved stressors, or unaddressed conflicts, no matter how “small,” remain active in our subconscious, creating a cognitive load that drains mental resources. In healthcare, where quick thinking and mental clarity are paramount, these ongoing distractions can add unnecessary mental clutter, potentially leading to diminished job performance. The good news is that even addressing the smallest tolerations can improve both mental clarity and emotional resilience. In fact, achieving these small goals causes a release of dopamine (our brain’s "feel-good" chemical), which reinforces positive behavior and makes tackling bigger issues more manageable as well.
To begin the process of naming and eliminating these tolerations, consider performing regular “toleration audits.” This simple but highly effective strategy begins with systematically identifying all the small irritations, frustrations, or inefficiencies in your life and writing them down. Consider separating them into different areas of your life (work, home, relationships, finances, etc.) and make it your goal to list as many as you can (for fun, aim for 30 or more – trust me, they’re there). Once you have your list, prioritize each item and start with the smallest, easiest ones. The goal is to build momentum as well as increased awareness of places and patterns in your life where you are “settling” for less than what you desire.
Remember, the process of identifying and addressing tolerations is an ongoing journey, not a one-time fix. The good news is that even small actions can lead to big shifts in how we feel and function. This week, I challenge you to conduct your own “Toleration Audit.” Then, share what you’ve learned and your intentions for change with your PeerRx partner. Take time to laugh at some of the ridiculous things you’ve been tolerating and be sure to celebrate each small victory. By consistently addressing these energy drains, you’ll find greater focus, a heightened sense of accomplishment, and greater peace of mind. And we could all sure use more of that ….