You are contagious ...

“Emotions are contagious.  We’ve all known this experientially.”  Daniel Goleman, PhD (expert on Emotional and Social Intelligence)

We’ve all experienced those times when we were impacted, positively or negatively, by the emotions of those around us.  Perhaps this past week?  We may not be as aware of the times when others are being impacted, positively or negatively, by our own emotions.  Both physical distancing and spending more time than usual with a smaller group of people can bring out negative emotions, which makes our present circumstances the “perfect storm” for negative emotional contagion. 

To prevent adversely contaminating others (or they you) with negative emotions, consider taking some deliberate steps.  This can start with “inoculating yourself” through attending to your own well-being, which includes adequate sleep, a healthy diet, regular exercise, and taking time to spiritually ground yourself through a practice of meditation and/or prayer.  For many this might also include limiting media coverage and other social media outlets.

Being aware of those circumstances that “set you off” as well as those that bring out the best in you and attenuating the former while accentuating the later can also be helpful.  When you are feeling overwhelmed, consider taking a “pause.”  This can provide time for you to reframe the situation so you can thoughtfully respond rather than emotionally react.  Inviting others to provide you feedback (including your PeerRx buddy) when you are “going negative” can also be a gift. 

Finally, looking for ways to express your best self and looking for opportunities to bring out the best in others can leverage the power of emotional contagion.  Remember, positive emotions are contagious too, so even in this time of caution, use every opportunity to spread them.